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Шаттл - это и космический корабль, и общественный транспорт от одного пункта до другого без промежуточных остановок.
Для русскоязычного читателя, конечно, более "космическое" значение, однако уже и у нас используется название "шаттл", например, для автобусов до терминалов международных аэропортов.
Википедия в статье "Shuttle" дает ссылку на "New York City Subway shuttles", то есть "Подземные шаттлы Города Нью Йорка", в описании чего сказано что "These are short services that connect passengers to longer services" [это короткие линии, которые подвозят пассажиров к более длинным линиям]. Ну а восстанавливая значение слова "труба" - "tube" - так это употребительное название для подземки/метро в общем и их туннелей в частности.
Итог: вышел из трубы городского шаттла = поднялся со станции короткого метро = обыденное.
Для русскоязычного читателя, конечно, более "космическое" значение, однако уже и у нас используется название "шаттл", например, для автобусов до терминалов международных аэропортов.
Википедия в статье "Shuttle" дает ссылку на "New York City Subway shuttles", то есть "Подземные шаттлы Города Нью Йорка", в описании чего сказано что "These are short services that connect passengers to longer services" [это короткие линии, которые подвозят пассажиров к более длинным линиям]. Ну а восстанавливая значение слова "труба" - "tube" - так это употребительное название для подземки/метро в общем и их туннелей в частности.
Итог: вышел из трубы городского шаттла = поднялся со станции короткого метро = обыденное.
Не знаю понравится вам или нет, но вот есть довольно популярная в ЖЖ электронная книга (серия постов) "Интеллектуальный бой": http://alexlysenko.livejournal.com/31771.html
Автор описывает что-то вроде того, что мы бы назвали Аптайм-интерфейсом уклонения от физических стычек + технику специальных разговорных рефреймингов.
Автор описывает что-то вроде того, что мы бы назвали Аптайм-интерфейсом уклонения от физических стычек + технику специальных разговорных рефреймингов.
Когда-то с моим другом произошла одна история. Однажды он провожал девушку, которая жила в одном из киевских бандитский районов. И так вышло, что когда возвращался назад один, было уже достаточно поздно. Общественный транспорт уже не ездил, поэтому необходимо было ловить такси, либо попутчика, но проезжающих машин не было. Только в 30 метрах стояла одна раздолбанная копейка, из которой доносились ритмы шансона. Через 5 минут из ее открытого окна высунулась бритая голова в кепке, после чего изрекла что-то в стиле: «Иди сюдана!»
Сохраняя абсолютное спокойствие, мой друг подошел к машине. К этому времени заднюю дверь ему уже успели любезно приоткрыть изнутри. Не долго думая, он плюхается на сидение, и закрывая с оглушительным треском дверь, многозначительно произносит: «Аппарат!..»
Гопников в машине оказалось трое. Первым оправился от шока водитель
- ну, ты это…с дверью поаккуратней…
- ок, сигарета есть?
- … есть, держи
- ага, и зажигалку дай
- вот…
- да, и слушай, можешь музыку чуть прикрутить?
Прикручивает. Машина трогается. Какое-то время все едут молча. Потом водитель оборачивается снова.
- а тебе вообще куда надо?
- на Фестивальный
- да я вообще х.з. где это…
- ты с этого района?
- ну да
- так что ты мне рассказываешь? Тут любой знает, где это
Водитель подъезжает к такси, припаркованной на обочине, и останавливается напротив двери водителя. Не выходя из копейки, просовывает руку через открытое окно иномарки, и несколько раз хлопает ладонью по щеке мужчину сидящего за рулем:
- слышь, как на Фестивальный проехать?
Тот ему объясняет.
Очень скоро они оказываются на месте.
- ну, спасибо пацаны, выручили. Сколько с меня?
- да ладно… нормальных пацанов можно и без денег подбросить. Ты только это… будешь выходить, дверью не хлопай так
- ок!
Надо сказать, что в процессе поездки, у друга было время на то, чтобы оценить всю серьезность ситуации, в которую он попал. И к тому времени нервничал он уже порядочно, хоть и не подавал вида. Поэтому, так получилось, что когда выходил, хлопнул дверью еще сильнее, чем в первый раз. Говорит, что пока шел первые 20 метров, не оборачиваясь, понимал, что там, позади, решается что-то важное. А после того как услышал, что машина завелась и уехала, сказал себе с облегчением: «Фух… пронесло!»
http://alexlysenko.livejournal.com/32037.html
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Re: Открытое плацебо тестировалось в научном контексте
eugzol в посте Metapractice (оригинал в ЖЖ)
Да, ты нашел классную ссылку! Спасибо!
Да я давненько на неё наткнулся, у себя разбирал вот здесь: http://meta-eugzol.livejournal.com/2055.html
Да я давненько на неё наткнулся, у себя разбирал вот здесь: http://meta-eugzol.livejournal.com/2055.html
Да, продолжаем. Сейчас, только я сам сначала очередную порцию реплик сделаю в темах "Пресижн" и "Пути воина". Какой длины репликами - вы так сформулировали вопрос - что ответ как бы сам собой напрашивается :)
Я был вне себя от гнева. Подумать только, сообщить матери, что ее сын к утру будет мертв! Это неслыханно!
Вот этот момент можете прокомментировать отдельно? Тут многократная диссоциация гнева ведь:
- гнев не за себя
- ...и даже не за свою мать
- ...и даже не за конкретного врача
- а за взаимодействие некоей РОЛИ врача, нарушающего кодекс проф. поведения, с РОЛЬЮ матери, ухаживающей за болеющим сыном
Э. так со всеми эмоциями проделывал?
Несколько оффтопиком вспоминается история - к сож. не помню точно содержание - когда на Э. наехал/оскорбил какой-то его коллега по проф. линии. Э. время от времени всем ему сочувствующим говорил, что его бессознательное найдет способ ответить. В конечном итоге он что-то такое острое-меткое лаконично сказанул ему в ответ в полуофициальном контексте при значимой публике, что чуть ли не в газетах потом цитировали. Связь с данным случаем в том, что там Э. переживал обиду даже в меньшей мере, чем в этой истории он переживал гнев. Какие-то безэмоциональные эмоции. Функция эмоции исполняется, а личное вовлечение/переживание минимально.
Вот этот момент можете прокомментировать отдельно? Тут многократная диссоциация гнева ведь:
- гнев не за себя
- ...и даже не за свою мать
- ...и даже не за конкретного врача
- а за взаимодействие некоей РОЛИ врача, нарушающего кодекс проф. поведения, с РОЛЬЮ матери, ухаживающей за болеющим сыном
Э. так со всеми эмоциями проделывал?
Несколько оффтопиком вспоминается история - к сож. не помню точно содержание - когда на Э. наехал/оскорбил какой-то его коллега по проф. линии. Э. время от времени всем ему сочувствующим говорил, что его бессознательное найдет способ ответить. В конечном итоге он что-то такое острое-меткое лаконично сказанул ему в ответ в полуофициальном контексте при значимой публике, что чуть ли не в газетах потом цитировали. Связь с данным случаем в том, что там Э. переживал обиду даже в меньшей мере, чем в этой истории он переживал гнев. Какие-то безэмоциональные эмоции. Функция эмоции исполняется, а личное вовлечение/переживание минимально.
Мы решили подойти к этому вопросу со стороны книги про комиксы. Через одну новую тему я буду сам выкладывать слайды про комиксы и будем из этого собирать правило многоуровневого интерфейса аптайм.
(офф - ну так что? продолжаем разбивку текста? И в каком масштабе: длинными лево-правыми периодами или же по-эриксониански короткими?)
Sure. When you make peace with a problem representation, it turns into a positive one, which becomes an additional resource that is a part of you. When you love someone, your internal representation of that person enriches you, and becomes part of the internal world that you carry with you everywhere. But you gain much more than just taking in something wonderful from outside. You also discover yourself in all the wonderful responses that you are capable of. You discover yourself as you relate to that other person. If they had never come into your life, you might never have known about your own ability to care, and appreciate, or whatever else you discovered about yourself in that relationship. Every time you take in something wonderful from outside yourself that is beautiful and true, you also discover more about yourself, and you become greater than you were. The more you have inside, the more you can appreciate what is outside.
A small child hasn’t had time to accumulate many experiences, and while they have a wonderful simplicity and innocence, they simply don’t have the experience to really appreciate finer discriminations. For a small child, any candy will do, as long as its full of sugar. Only later can they really appreciate the flavor of real maple sugar or the delicate tastes and textures of other treats, as their internal world of experience gradually becomes enriched. And the same is true of appreciation of art, music, or any other experience.
What kind of internal world do you carry around with you? What experiences have you furnished your mind with? Some people collect resentments, disasters, and other unpleasant memories and then live with them. Imagine what it would be like to put photos and paintings of unpleasant events all over the walls of your home and office, where you would see and respond to them every day. That would be pretty awful, yet that is what many people do in their minds — and unlike their homes or offices, they can’t escape from that. I recently saw a quote from Nelson Mandela — who spent 27 years in prison being beaten — that says it well: “Resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.”
Rather than that, why not furnish your mind with powerful experiences? Striking beauty, deep gratitude, gentle love, lasting pleasure, shared humor, unswerving loyalty, incredible courage, profound wisdom, the kind of connection that brings tears. . . .
I am not talking about denying the manifold horrors of man’s inhumanity and stupidity, but those can be kept at a distance, out of the home that you live in, your mind.
How about building in yourself a personal quality of being determined to live in a mind filled with beauty, truth, and pleasure, and begin, now, to collect experiences that nourish you and assemble them, just as you do for any other quality in yourself? I think that would be one of the most profoundly useful ways that you could use what you have learned in this book to make your life better.
Excerpted from Transforming Your Self: becoming who you want to be, now available on Amazon Kindle.
A small child hasn’t had time to accumulate many experiences, and while they have a wonderful simplicity and innocence, they simply don’t have the experience to really appreciate finer discriminations. For a small child, any candy will do, as long as its full of sugar. Only later can they really appreciate the flavor of real maple sugar or the delicate tastes and textures of other treats, as their internal world of experience gradually becomes enriched. And the same is true of appreciation of art, music, or any other experience.
What kind of internal world do you carry around with you? What experiences have you furnished your mind with? Some people collect resentments, disasters, and other unpleasant memories and then live with them. Imagine what it would be like to put photos and paintings of unpleasant events all over the walls of your home and office, where you would see and respond to them every day. That would be pretty awful, yet that is what many people do in their minds — and unlike their homes or offices, they can’t escape from that. I recently saw a quote from Nelson Mandela — who spent 27 years in prison being beaten — that says it well: “Resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.”
Rather than that, why not furnish your mind with powerful experiences? Striking beauty, deep gratitude, gentle love, lasting pleasure, shared humor, unswerving loyalty, incredible courage, profound wisdom, the kind of connection that brings tears. . . .
I am not talking about denying the manifold horrors of man’s inhumanity and stupidity, but those can be kept at a distance, out of the home that you live in, your mind.
How about building in yourself a personal quality of being determined to live in a mind filled with beauty, truth, and pleasure, and begin, now, to collect experiences that nourish you and assemble them, just as you do for any other quality in yourself? I think that would be one of the most profoundly useful ways that you could use what you have learned in this book to make your life better.
Excerpted from Transforming Your Self: becoming who you want to be, now available on Amazon Kindle.
If you examine these examples for what they have in common, there are some interesting lessons. One is that rather than run away or separate from the situation, they stayed connected with the difficulty, and maintained a relationship. Nothing works all the time; I’m sure that there are people who tried this kind of approach without the same success. But staying connected retains access to all your resources, and gives you an opportunity to have an impact on someone else in a threatening situation.
Another common element in all these examples is that they all refused to accept the frame or context that they were presented with, and instead created a new frame that was more to their liking. They each created a context that was much better than the one that they found themselves in, and acted within that frame in a way that drew the other person into the new frame, eliciting a different response.
This was a constant theme in the work of Virginia Satir’s very successful work with families. “Anybody on the outside of me is someone whom I can respond to, but they are never the definers of me, unless I have handed over my charge of myself to them.” In order to offer a new and better frame, these people needed to have all their internal resources available to them, and not be embroiled in the internal turmoil that is always a part of fear or anger, and which would have made them weak and vulnerable.
It can be useful to consider the opposite situation. Can you think of a time in your life when your external reality was rather pleasant, perhaps even particularly wonderful, but you couldn’t enjoy it because you were so embroiled in some kind of internal turmoil? Certainly paranoia is an example of someone who is having a very bad time, often despite the attempts of people around them to help them enjoy life. If you don’t make peace with your internal divisions, you’re going to have an unpleasant time, whether or not you solve external problems, and this is a fundamental message in many spiritual traditions. “The kingdom of heaven is within you,” is not just abstract metaphor, it’s a very direct statement about where the solution lies.
Sue: You have been talking about the problems caused by internal representations that are involved in conflicts. Could you say a little about positive representations?
Another common element in all these examples is that they all refused to accept the frame or context that they were presented with, and instead created a new frame that was more to their liking. They each created a context that was much better than the one that they found themselves in, and acted within that frame in a way that drew the other person into the new frame, eliciting a different response.
This was a constant theme in the work of Virginia Satir’s very successful work with families. “Anybody on the outside of me is someone whom I can respond to, but they are never the definers of me, unless I have handed over my charge of myself to them.” In order to offer a new and better frame, these people needed to have all their internal resources available to them, and not be embroiled in the internal turmoil that is always a part of fear or anger, and which would have made them weak and vulnerable.
It can be useful to consider the opposite situation. Can you think of a time in your life when your external reality was rather pleasant, perhaps even particularly wonderful, but you couldn’t enjoy it because you were so embroiled in some kind of internal turmoil? Certainly paranoia is an example of someone who is having a very bad time, often despite the attempts of people around them to help them enjoy life. If you don’t make peace with your internal divisions, you’re going to have an unpleasant time, whether or not you solve external problems, and this is a fundamental message in many spiritual traditions. “The kingdom of heaven is within you,” is not just abstract metaphor, it’s a very direct statement about where the solution lies.
Sue: You have been talking about the problems caused by internal representations that are involved in conflicts. Could you say a little about positive representations?
But even more interesting to me is the use of this principle at the mental level, so that the conflict never even reaches the physical level. For many years I have been collecting reports of how people avoided being raped, mugged or assaulted by staying connected with their assailant, and using a sort of “mental Aikido” to find a way to utilize the situation.
One woman was sitting on a fire escape at a summer party, cooling off and having a smoke, when she felt something on her shoulder. She looked over and saw a man’s penis there. She said casually, as if musing to herself, “Hmmm, that looks like a penis, only smaller,” and the guy vanished.
A woman was in bed one night, when suddenly there was a man on top of her. She reached over to the night stand, picked up a quarter and offered it to him, saying, “Excuse me, would you please call the police; there’s a strange man in my bed,” and he left.
A college student was in his dorm room, studying hard before finals, when the door opened and another student came into his room, and said in a dull voice, “I’m going to shoot you.” The student who was studying was totally exasperated at this interruption of his studying, and said in a loud voice, “Look, I’m studying for finals; I have no time for this kind of nonsense; go shoot someone else,” and turned back to his books. The guy with the gun said, “Oh, OK.” and left. About a minute later there was a shot from the next room.
An attendant in a mental hospital was grabbed from behind in a choke hold by a patient who was not only much stronger, but who had a lot of martial arts training. The attendant knew that struggling to release himself would be useless, so just as he began to lose consciousness, he reached up and lovingly stroked the patient’s arm around his neck. The patient stopped choking him because, as he said later, “That was just too weird, so I had to stop and figure out what was going on.”
A woman who was being held hostage by a man with a shotgun at her throat kept telling him jokes, “Have you heard the one about the—” After about an hour of this, he released her unharmed.
Another woman was walking down the street in a rough neighborhood late at night, when she noticed a man who seemed to be following her. She crossed the street, and he followed her. She speeded up her walking and he did, too. She was starting to get a little worried, so she turned around and walked up to him and said. “Excuse me, I’m feeling scared. Would you escort me home?” The man held out his arm and escorted her home. She found out later that he had gone on to rape someone else later that evening.
For a whole book full of stories of creative conflict resolution like this, read Sweet Fruit from the Bitter Tree.
When many people hear these stories, they think that this kind of response would be very hard to come up with on the spot. Certainly these people were unusually creative. While it may be difficult to come up with a creative response on the spot, it is possible to plan ahead for likely possibilities and future-pace your responses to them, so that they are automatic.
One woman who had a job that required her to walk home late at night through a rough neighborhood always made special preparations before leaving work. First she put half of her hair in a pony tail sticking straight up from one side of her head, and the rest of it in another pony tail sticking out horizontally on the other side. Then she painted her mouth in a very exaggerated “cupid’s bow” smile with bright lipstick. Finally, she put a couple of alka-seltzer tablets in the palm of her hand. When a man approached her suspiciously, she would turn to face him, and smile broadly, with wide open eyes, which was usually enough to discourage him. On the one occasion when that didn’t work, she put the tablets in her mouth and started foaming, and he ran away.
One woman was sitting on a fire escape at a summer party, cooling off and having a smoke, when she felt something on her shoulder. She looked over and saw a man’s penis there. She said casually, as if musing to herself, “Hmmm, that looks like a penis, only smaller,” and the guy vanished.
A woman was in bed one night, when suddenly there was a man on top of her. She reached over to the night stand, picked up a quarter and offered it to him, saying, “Excuse me, would you please call the police; there’s a strange man in my bed,” and he left.
A college student was in his dorm room, studying hard before finals, when the door opened and another student came into his room, and said in a dull voice, “I’m going to shoot you.” The student who was studying was totally exasperated at this interruption of his studying, and said in a loud voice, “Look, I’m studying for finals; I have no time for this kind of nonsense; go shoot someone else,” and turned back to his books. The guy with the gun said, “Oh, OK.” and left. About a minute later there was a shot from the next room.
An attendant in a mental hospital was grabbed from behind in a choke hold by a patient who was not only much stronger, but who had a lot of martial arts training. The attendant knew that struggling to release himself would be useless, so just as he began to lose consciousness, he reached up and lovingly stroked the patient’s arm around his neck. The patient stopped choking him because, as he said later, “That was just too weird, so I had to stop and figure out what was going on.”
A woman who was being held hostage by a man with a shotgun at her throat kept telling him jokes, “Have you heard the one about the—” After about an hour of this, he released her unharmed.
Another woman was walking down the street in a rough neighborhood late at night, when she noticed a man who seemed to be following her. She crossed the street, and he followed her. She speeded up her walking and he did, too. She was starting to get a little worried, so she turned around and walked up to him and said. “Excuse me, I’m feeling scared. Would you escort me home?” The man held out his arm and escorted her home. She found out later that he had gone on to rape someone else later that evening.
For a whole book full of stories of creative conflict resolution like this, read Sweet Fruit from the Bitter Tree.
When many people hear these stories, they think that this kind of response would be very hard to come up with on the spot. Certainly these people were unusually creative. While it may be difficult to come up with a creative response on the spot, it is possible to plan ahead for likely possibilities and future-pace your responses to them, so that they are automatic.
One woman who had a job that required her to walk home late at night through a rough neighborhood always made special preparations before leaving work. First she put half of her hair in a pony tail sticking straight up from one side of her head, and the rest of it in another pony tail sticking out horizontally on the other side. Then she painted her mouth in a very exaggerated “cupid’s bow” smile with bright lipstick. Finally, she put a couple of alka-seltzer tablets in the palm of her hand. When a man approached her suspiciously, she would turn to face him, and smile broadly, with wide open eyes, which was usually enough to discourage him. On the one occasion when that didn’t work, she put the tablets in her mouth and started foaming, and he ran away.
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