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If you are watching someone's eyes to tell if they are lying, please don't. So many people think the eyes will give away lies. It's not that simple.
When I watch a person speak, believe it or not, I am not looking for behaviors like shifting eyes, fidgeting or nervousness to queue me in to a lie. That would make me batty!
Instead, I look for inconsistencies in fact, character and emotion. For me, it's all about inconsistencies.
If someone is grinning when they should be mad, sad or upset, that's a red flag. When someone acts like they are crying, but does not shed a tear, I question why. When someone is emotionless in a situation that should bring out emotions, I look more closely.
The best thing you can do to is watch for inconsistencies from the norm. What is normal for the person you suspect is lying? If they are acting different, then ask yourself why. Do your homework to see if the "why" makes sense. If it doesn't, keep digging!
Furthermore, I think it is important that you are able to differentiate between your emotional mind, and your logical mind. When we are seeking the truth, we must remove our emotions and emotional biases, and work strictly in a logical frame of mind. We must deny our emotions when the situation is personal because if we don't, we are likely to get skewed results: blacker than black, or rosier than red.
When I watch a person speak, believe it or not, I am not looking for behaviors like shifting eyes, fidgeting or nervousness to queue me in to a lie. That would make me batty!
Instead, I look for inconsistencies in fact, character and emotion. For me, it's all about inconsistencies.
If someone is grinning when they should be mad, sad or upset, that's a red flag. When someone acts like they are crying, but does not shed a tear, I question why. When someone is emotionless in a situation that should bring out emotions, I look more closely.
The best thing you can do to is watch for inconsistencies from the norm. What is normal for the person you suspect is lying? If they are acting different, then ask yourself why. Do your homework to see if the "why" makes sense. If it doesn't, keep digging!
Furthermore, I think it is important that you are able to differentiate between your emotional mind, and your logical mind. When we are seeking the truth, we must remove our emotions and emotional biases, and work strictly in a logical frame of mind. We must deny our emotions when the situation is personal because if we don't, we are likely to get skewed results: blacker than black, or rosier than red.