At first I found her ability to ignore external sounds amazing, but she’s always said it was something she learned growing up in a household with six children. (I was an “only” child in a much quieter household.) There was always a lot going on, so if she wanted to accomplish anything, she needed to focus only on that and ignore everything else. Many people who grow up in very noisy or chaotic households unconsciously learn to “tune out” these events, usually without knowing how they do it.

By remembering and reaccessing these kinds of experiences vividly we can realize that we already have the ability to reduce input in certain contexts, and learn to apply this skill in other situations where it would be useful to us—something that adept hypnotists have been doing for many years.
If we examine these experiences carefully, sometimes we can even find out exactly what we unconsciously do in our minds that makes the skill possible. This can make the skill explicit in a form that it can easily be taught to others.

For instance, “tunnel vision” is a problem in many contexts, but it is also a skill that can reduce visual input when that is useful. You can imagine a tunnel with black surroundings, through which you can only see what you are focusing on. Or you can “zoom in” on what is relevant, so that it occupies most of your visual field, overlapping and obscuring other events. Or you could defocus the surroundings so that only what you attend to is in sharp focus.

Prioritization
The previous example included a way to prioritize, so that the blizzard of simultaneous events can be sequenced, and you can focus on one thing at a time. One of the simplest ways to do this is to jot down a word or two on a piece of paper to indicate each of the things that is on your mind. Putting them all down on paper ensures that nothing will be left out, while allowing them to slip out of your mind and onto the paper, putting some distance between you and them. This makes it much easier for you to scan the list quickly and decide which item needs attention first. Some people also like to decide which item should be attended to next, and some even like to use a new sheet of paper to write down all the items in a new order that indicates the sequence in which they need to be attended to. This is fine, as long as the new list is flexible, and allows for resequencing when that makes better sense.

Overcoming Overwhelm

All of us experience overwhelm at times. When there is too much happening at once, it is hard to focus on what we need to pay attention to. The resulting confusion and frustration can easily “boil over” into yelling, grumpiness, or other behaviors that create even more to deal with! Another phrase for this is “sensory overload.” For instance, when I am following directions while driving to an unfamiliar address, I find that I do much better if I turn the radio off. If I don’t, I begin to have symptoms that are much the same as in those diagnosed with “ADHD,” and I am more likely to miss a turn or make some other mistake in driving.

The fundamental problem with overwhelm is that there is too much information to process in a given time frame. This can be because there is too much occurring simultaneously, or because it is being presented too fast sequentially for us to process it well. To deal effectively with overwhelm, the first thing to do is find some way to reduce the immediate sensory overload. This sensory overload has two main components. One is the actual external sensory input around us in the moment, and the other is the internal input from what is going on in our own mind/body. Let’s consider the external input first.

Reducing external input
There are two fundamental ways to reduce external input.

One is to take some kind of practical action in the real world to reduce the input, as I do when I turn off the radio when driving to an unfamiliar address. You can ask others to be quiet so you can listen to one person at a time, or ask them all to be quiet so you can concentrate on reading or a phone call. You can turn off the TV, cover your eyes so you can hear better, or leave a chaotic scene altogether, etc.

The other way is to learn internal ways to concentrate on certain aspects of the external input, and reduce or “tune out” the rest of it. Although some people are more skilled at this than others, all of us already know how to do this well in certain contexts. When my wife Connirae is at work on her computer, she automatically tunes out the sounds around her. I know this because there have been times when I had entire “conversations” with her, but she wasn’t aware of it. I’ve learned that if I want her to actually notice that I’m saying something, I need to first get her attention by calling her name, or going over and putting my hand on her shoulder. Sometimes she’ll pause, and I can see her refocusing her attention from her work and onto me. Usually she can still find the auditory memory of whatever I’ve just said and replay it in her mind and understand it. If she hadn’t refocused her attention right then, what I had said would be gone.

Ааа, так у тебя головные боли!

Cратегии А-Аd это упрощенно что-то "височное". Звуки, внутренний диалог и т.п. Посмотри, что активно в тех отделах височной коры, которых касаются ее пальцы.

Если сейчас голова прошла - тогда надо стереть память о такой бывшей головной боли.

Интересно, когда я готовил пост по твоей реплике, я специально для тебя выбрал иллюстрацию :) Но, про головные боли я не думал.

Свои я устранил лет в 30 навсегда. Теперь у меня голова вообще не болит. Только может сделаться "тяжелой".

Думаю, что в критические годы, это спасло меня от инсульта.

Да нет. Голова у тебя болит от "височных" сигналов. А те "выдают" своим появлением/присутствием болезненные А-Ad стратегии. Прости пожалуйста, но от этого надо эээ "лечиться". Иначе не быть тебе свободным активным оператором.

Я сменю иллюстрацию сегодня.

Это я понимаю и эээ сочувствую.

Но, я говорю в другом масштабе. Вот, там где ты сейчас - ты в магазин ходишь? Пусть этот маршрут всего на пвру минут.

Вот его и используй.

Части ДОЛЖНЫ пользоваться навыками, ежели таковые имеются в наличии!

Обычно, навык хранит специальная Часть. Хотя может быть и другая структура. Это надо разбираться, спрашивая сАми части.

Может. Но, это шаг в сторону хаоса.

Поэтому, надо настраивать системы, в которых каждому "включению некоей активности" может соответствовать СКООРДИНИРОВАННОЕ включение нескольких частей, каждая из которых работает над достижением СВОЕГО намерения. И каждая из которых, желательно, имеет СВОЙ СОБСТВЕННЫЙ РИТУАЛ/НАБОРЫ ПОВЕДЕНИЯ.

Получается нормальная иерархическая система, которая исключает сбои в работе и пересечения активностей.

Это одна и та же, прости, шняга, в рамках психотерапии.

Ты должен знать только список своих намерений (левое полушарие) и изоморфный список путей их реализаций (правое полушарие). Все остальное от лукавого. :)

Существование части определяется ТОЛЬКО ДВУМЯ КООРДИНАТАМИ:

--КАКОВО ЕЕ НАМЕРЕНИЕ
--КАКОВО ЕЕ ПОВЕДЕНИЕ

...координата "кто она такая часть есть" является для работы части типа вирусом для компьютерной программы. Этот вирус сводит часть с ума.

Ежели какой владелец части со стороны сознания внушит таки части искать кто она есть - тут-то части и придет конец. Далее, она начнет работать типа программы, пораженной вирусняком или переносящей трояна. И рано или поздно рухнет.

Кстати, поиски "самоидентификации" и "самореализации" в известный традициях бывшей гуманистической психологии это прямо на данную тему.